Living Phobia Free – Fear of Public Speaking – #8 The secrets to self confidence – part two

There is a saying “fake it till you make it”, perhaps you have heard this and thought it was useful. Wrong!

Imagine if I was to teach you to be supremely confident that you were a great downhill skier. Then encouraged you to go to the top of a ski run with nothing but your confidence (and skis), how do you think it will end if you just fake it till you make it? A mess I’m sure.

Real CONFIDENCE comes from having a COMPETENCY first.

Get confident by first building competency

With pubic speaking as with skiing, you start on the nursery slopes build up a set of skills and gradually improve and challenge yourself and over time you will end up at the top of a black run for the very first time. This time however you have competency, which will help you to simply do your best and see how it goes and then improve with more practice.

A secret to self-confidence is building up your competency first.

When it comes to overcoming a fear of public speaking and building up self-confidence for talking in public the nursery slopes are in your imagination.

You begin first off by being in a calm relaxed state and ONLY THEN do you run through a mental dress rehearsal of how you would like it to go.

Getting into a relaxed state first is key to the success of this process because you want to associate being relaxed and calm with the experience of talking in front of a group or making a speech. Most people with a phobia or fear of public speaking are anxious and then they think about the speech, talk or meeting they have to give (if they can’t avoid it) and innocently they associated anxiety with the event..ooops!

There is a 3-part sequence to using the imagination effectively; that I will coach you through during this episode. It is powerful and very effective and works even better with practice.

You will never need to fake it till you make it, instead you will know how to plan on success and build the competency first before then talking in front of a group

In this video series “Living Phobia Free” I will be covering tips, techniques, observations and sharing information about overcoming a wide range of phobias and fears.

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